By Ryan English
Most women get embarrassed when asked about their libidos during the post menopausal years. When asked about their quality of sex life, orgasm, and satisfaction of their sexuality, they find it hard to answer those questions because their post menopausal libido has changed them so much. They find it difficult to find the answers they need, and they find it difficult to relieve the symptoms of mood swings, tiredness, vaginal dryness, and hot flashes during this time.
During the years of post menopause the female body is in an uproar. Changing hormone levels, along with the symptoms of menopause cause a woman to lose her interest in sexual activity. It is during these years that the home life changes, our babies become teenagers, and stress is at an all time high. Because of these factors, sex becomes less important to a woman as it did in younger years.
By exploring your sexuality during this time can be a huge help. Realizing that there is no worry of pregnancy, and your growing child getting ready to leave the house can really help. It gives you time to explore your partner and try new things to increase the level of sexual desire.
Because there are emotional and physical factors, your sex drive can be severely changed.
Looking at the physical factors first, you will find that those can be changed easier than the emotional ones.
Hormonal imbalance is probably the greatest factor in a post menopausal libido. With the stress, mood swings, and hot flashes, it is time to look into getting those hormones in balance. Once a woman gets her hormones in check, her desire for sexual intercourse returns. Because stress is such a huge factor, a woman's body will put survival ahead of pleasure. Adrenal glands become over-worked causing the woman's body to decrease her levels of estrogen and testosterone, the two key ingredients of desire, and sexual response.
There is a direct link between nutrition and libido, though most don't recognize that their diets could be affecting their desire to have intercourse. When a woman become a chronic dieter, she loses that self-esteem, something that is vital for a woman to have desire. When she doesn't feel good about herself, it is difficult to let go and relax, allowing those hormones to create the desire it once had, thus affecting the libido. Low fat diets cause the body to stop producing lipids which is a very important ingredient for making those hormones that create desire.
On the emotional scale, a woman's desire is directly tied to her self image. Going through post menopause, our bodies gain weight, we have mood swings, and when hot flashes occur, we don't want to be touched. Experts claim that humans are the only species that use pheromones to feel sexy. As the body ages, the body image changes too.
Relationship problems arise during post menopause because it is during that time that a woman finds herself being more absorbed with self, than with the rest of the family. It is a time that she finds herself more irritated, and more vocal.
The changes of the vagina during this time are thinning, tightening, and dryness in the vulva and vagina. Some women stop having sex all together due to the pain and discomfort of these symptoms. Using Vitamin E lubricants, along with water-based lubricants can be a huge help in treating these symptoms. Hydration also plays a huge factor during this time, and by drinking plenty of fluids can also help tremendously.